“Co-Creating from a Higher Perspective”
by
June 2007
It is a gorgeous time, isn’t it? More and more our understanding of life and how we create it is in the forefront of our vision. We have wonderful movies like “What the Bleep Do We Know?,” “The Secret,” “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior” and “The Celestine Prophecy.” We have Oprah celebrating the laws of attraction, Montel hosting Sylvia Brown and shows such as “Crossing Over with John Edwards” celebrating that we are more than this physical body. Heck, I’m even on “Daytime!”
Many of us are saying “YES ~
This is how I live my life! This isn’t new to me and I am so glad that
‘main stream’ is finally getting it!” We
have been the fore runners for a long time and now humanity is picking up the
pace.
I meet with many in my practice who claim this way of life ~ dancing with Source and the Universe, co-creating their life of peace, love and joy, believing that they are one with Source and where they place their attention, the energy will follow. They are expanding and evolving in creating a Spirit Lead Life.
What seems to be a big
question now is this: How to deal with
family members and close friends when they do not embrace life with the same
perspectives? Since we know about energy
and we are staying in integrity with holding positive thoughts and intention
for the highest, how do we deal with others who still chose a perspective that
we have left behind without making a conflict?
How do we stay true to ourselves, holding our perspective, while still
embracing our family and close friends?
Let’s take for example a mom
who loves and cares for her adult daughter.
The daughter goes for a walk or bike ride each day. When the mom hears of this she says, “Be
careful. There are a lot of crazy
drivers out there and you don’t want to get run over!” When you hear these comments, the energy can
feel like someone just scratched their fingernails down a chalkboard. You cringe as you see the vision placed
before you. Silently, you say, “Cancel,
Cancel, Cancel.”
And you wonder if you will ever share with your mom again when you take
another bike ride or walk.
So let’s explore this
question: How do I deal with those who love me, when they put the
‘doom and gloom’ spin on my day’s activities?
1. First
and foremost, remember this person loves you!
Though the words may focus on ‘doom and gloom’ it is said out of
love. The person wants to see you safe and happy. Instead of saying
what they want for you, they are focusing on what they don’t want to happen, so
that you stay safe and happy. Understanding this helps us to see their
perspective in a higher way and then it doesn’t bring us down so much. From here, you can celebrate the love
together.
2. Now
that you know where your mom is coming from, in your own
words, your own language, explain that you believe in Positive Thinking/ The
Law of Attraction. Explain how you focus
on what you want in your life. You can even share that
scientist are now proving that our thoughts impact the creations around
us. You may wish to share detailed work like Messages From
Water or Quantum Physics. The most
important thing is sharing in a way you feel comfortable and she understands.
3. Then
the ‘doom and gloom’ messages start to come about, gently offer a different
perspective that still creates what you both want. Stop the message
midstream (yes interrupt- but gently-if it feels right) and say something like,
“You know I understand you are saying this because you love me. I also
understand you are saying this because you want me to be happy, safe and live a
joyful life. So, let’s focus on that.”
Make sure you are coming from your heart. Feel the truth of what you say. Use words that are real for you that allow both
of you to feel embraced in a higher energy of creation. No judgment.
4. Then
offer your mom some ‘substitute’ statements that celebrate what she really
wants for you, such as:
·
“I see/hope your bike ride is filled with
encounters of people who are enjoying their day.”
·
“I hope your bike ride is the best one
yet.”
·
“I trust you will enjoy this bike ride and
it will be filled with all good things.”
Of
course feel free to create your own descriptions and offer them to her.
In fact, it is a vision you can create together. Most of our Moms would really enjoy taking
the time to create this vision together and it would empower her greatly in
other aspects of her life. Also, it would give her practice in creating
“positive” statements.
5. Now
you may not get total ‘buy in’ right from the start. You may be met with statements like, “Yes, but
what I saw on the news last night … or read in the paper…it was bad.” Remember, she is coming from love. Thank her for sharing. Thank her for caring. Let her know you are aware of that type of
thing, but you create your world by positive thoughts and focusing on how you
want your life to be. Let her know it works ~ life is good thus
far! Invite her again to hold the vision of what you want, not what you
don’t want. It may take some practice to remind her, but it will come
easily if you remember she is speaking from love. She just hasn’t had the
opportunity to create life in this way – consciously. Explain to her that all of these positive
things she wants for you do not include the ‘negative things.’ If the vision is “I see your bike ride as the
best one yet” by ‘default’ you will not be run over by a car, mugged, or
robbed. So she has covered all her
bases for loving you and not wanting bad things to happen to you ~ only good.
6. Here
is another perspective on this ~ my husband,
Now I don’t mean to single
out moms. It was just an example. I love my mom! I hope you love your mom too. This type of situation can occur with
parents, brothers and sisters, close friends, even your own
Namaste.
In Loving Oneness,
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