Forgiveness: Harmony & Wholeness

By Marilu Wilson Peña

July 14, 2007

 

I enjoy looking at the energy of emotions, exploring how the energy flows through us and what exactly is the benefit(s) of the energy, state of being and awareness of the energy in motion ~ emotion.  Recently, I have been celebrating the energy of forgiveness as it relates to our empowerment as the Spirit that we are.  During my intimate exploration of forgiveness, I have received the following insights.  I offer them in love and celebration as the Divine Creators that we are in hopes that you will feel more empowered to create a life of wholeness and harmony.

When we experience a situation that causes a perceived imbalance in the energy within us, we feel as if we have experienced a wrong, a hurt, or an injustice, for example. There is a sense or perception of loss, lack, imbalance, or even a ‘hole,’ if you will, within our energy.  We use words as labels to communicate the feeling of the energy within us.  We label our emotions such as resentment, sad, or hurt.  Sometimes we can’t even put a label on it and simply say, “I can’t believe it. I can’t even find the words for it.”

The state or action of forgiveness brings balance back to our energy, state of mind and emotions.  Forgiveness is for the person who offers the forgiveness.    It is giving forward to restore balance where there is an experienced imbalance in the energy between people, a situation or within your own being.

Forgiveness is a gift for ourselves ~ balancing the energy within regardless of the actions of the other party.  Apologies are for rebalancing inequities in energy/actions of the one giving the apology.  I invite you to look at the following example for more clarity:

Let’s say for example that I am sitting next to you.  As I get up and accidentally I step on your foot.  At that point, I feel ‘bad’ for stepping on your foot and possibly hurting you.  I say, “I am sorry, please excuse me.”  That apology assists me in rebalancing the energy within me.

Depending on your experience of the same situation, you may respond with a couple of different answers.  If the situation did not upset your energy or cause pain, you may respond with, “No worries” and feel there is no need for forgiveness.  You did not experience an imbalance in your energy.

If you felt an imbalance in your energy and received my apology, you may respond with, “I accept your apology… all is well.”  And now the energy is rebalanced with in you.

In the same example, I may step on our toe and not realize it.  I do not experience any imbalance in energy within me and therefore do not offer an apology.   At the same time, your foot hurts and you feel a great imbalance in energy.  You may continue to resent the fact that I totally disrespected your space and was clumsy in my movement.  You may hold resentment or forgive me.  Either way it is a decision in how you are going to handle the imbalance in the energy. Forgiveness restores the energy within your being back to wholeness.

When you find it hard to forgive, consider forgiving the person (or yourself) and not focus on the action involved.  Forgiveness does not mean you have to relive the experience again.  It is restoring the balance of energy within you to create from an empowered place.  If we understand that most people are doing the best they can in the moment, and that includes yourself, we can forgive the person without accepting the action as something we would live through again.  Align with the Spirit of the person you are forgiving and see the highest in them as you do in yourself ~ Namaste.  Forgiveness allows your energy to be rebalanced and to create/act from wholeness, self love and self-empowerment.  Now you can address the person from your highest to his/her highest and create a more beautiful relationship than to simply dwell on the negative experience.

 

We can move into our greatest forgiveness when we see the gift in the experience. We gain greater awareness about our own Spirit when we look for the gift in the experience by asking, “How has this experience made me stronger, wiser, or more compassionate?”  These are simply examples because the gifts are infinite.  Having gratitude about the experience brings us back to an energetic balance of harmony and wholeness, (our natural states) creating a more authentic life for ourselves.  We release a ‘hurt’ state of being and embrace our wholeness.  This supports us as we create from the authentic self in the moment as the Spirit that we are.

I offer this in the greatest of Spirit and Love.  I offer this so that you continue to walk your path in the highest of vibrations, authenticity and beauty as the Divine that you are.  You bliss is humanity’s blessing!

In Loving Oneness,

Marilu

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